Things we were not taught in school

I loved school, I loved that there was always something new to learn and a new world to discover. My teachers were saying to my parents that I was a great student and a good kid. My parents would ask them if I could do something better and many of them would point out that I often got distracted, looked outside the window and got lost in my thoughts. My daydreaming didn’t impact my grades nor my behavior, however it seemed back then like a negative thing to do.

Now during my early 30s I realized that even though school and formal learning has taught me a great deal, it had not taught me the essential skills one needs in life. All those I had to learn and develop by myself and it is a journey I am in. I have been slowly writing down a small list with important things we were not taught in school and I wonder what else can you add on this one?

     We were not taught…

1. Self love
2. Time Management
3. How to be rich or poor
4. How to walk away from toxic people, especially if they are members of our family
5. How to know what is going on in someone else’s mind
6. The ability of time
7. The power of will
8. The need of aloneness and own space
9. The importance of mental and physical health and the connection to each other
10. Not to believe everything our mind thinks
11. About mental disorders and how to deal with it
12. Negotiation tactics
13. How to love someone
14. The importance of spending time with people that are good for our mental health and development
15. That only if we stop being our parents children we can begin our own life journey
16. That people with addictions are really addicted to escaping reality
17. That some of the hardest decisions we make are whether to walk away or try harder
18. To embrace our uniqueness and not being afraid to be different
19. Not being afraid in general and trust in ourselves and the universe
20. That one should never sacrifice their happiness for others
21. That happiness is a state of mind not a destination
22. That we should embrace our emotions
23. That money do not buy happiness but they buy a lot of fun stuff
24. That kindness and love are the biggest virtues
25. How to cope with a “no” or failure
26. Learning to say no instead of maybe
27. Following our dreams
28. Trust our instincts
29. That it is not our thoughts that define us but our actions
30.  That sometimes tomorrow is too late for love
31. What to say to someone who is dying
32. To be present
33. That our past does not define who we are or who will become
34. That everyday is the first day of the rest of our life
35. That sky is the limit

And I finish this blog with two things I read today

 “Our words are the gateway for our needs to be met. We cannot stay quiet and expect people to show up the way we need them too”

Vienna Pharaon

“To be nobody but
yourself in a world
which is doing its best day and night to make you like
everybody else means to fight the hardest battle
which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.” 

 E. E. Cummings

What are really the things they did not teach YOU in school?

Merry mindful Christmas 

xo

Nikolina