Somewhere between the sun that is losing it’s warmth and the wind becoming crispy I am “fighting” with autumn blues. And you know what the wise say. “Those who fight don’t listen, those who listen don’t fight”. I can’t remember where I read this lately but lately I read a lot. There are different ways that lift me up during my autumn blues. Reading is one thing, switching off TV and social media is another, meeting my friends is the best and trying to eat as healthy and little as possible, exercise and meditate is what truly helps.
Every day is a new battle and I know I just have to go up and go for it. Sometimes is exhausting, sometimes rewarding but keep that in mind. No one lives a perfect life. I interact with so many people every day. A get a small glimpse into peoples lives. A small one, it lasts a few seconds, sometimes minutes, sometimes a new world unveils, sometimes I see nothing. And while I see life and fight in others at the same time I try to keep going myself. I try to take one day at a time. Be present. Live into here and now but damn it is not easy and it takes so much effort and this is what I really want to talk about in this blog.
I was going through the messages I receive from you guys. Messages I receive on instagram, blog, mailbox, facebook. Messages from people I know and people I don’t.
First I want to say THANK YOU! The thing that you take your time not only to read my content but also to write something back is amazing and I am so grateful for! So thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Also I want to make things clear. Very clear at the moment. Blogging and real life are two different things. Blogging life is a utopia, a real utopia. It is where I get to be creative, take photos, write, edit, filter, dream and re-live, hold and remember. As long as I remember I have wondered around with a camera, a book and a pen. And while “not all who wonder are lost”, I have been wondered and lost thousands of times. Life is what happens while you make plans and think that you have everything figured and worked out.
My life is not perfect and it is definitely not an easy road. I often get messages from old classmates and friends. “You are doing so great”, “Your life is so amazing”, “You have everything figured out”. Guys! First thing first, no one has everything figured out at their 30s, I mean no one. Life is constantly changing and developing. Life is a journey you get to travel every day. I got off the phone with a friend of mine today. She is crushing in depth, just lost her job and figured out that her husband is having an affair. On her Instagram she uploaded a photo yesterday at their house #happiness #family and she wrote “When life is perfect, I love you”. Imagine my reaction when she “shoot the news”. ” I am getting a divorce and we are losing our house.” At the end of our long conversation I asked her “Why did you upload that photo on IG yesterday?” she told me “I wanted to hold on for the last time to the idea of the life that we once had. You know not everyone is lucky”.
I do not believe in luck, not with it’s conventional meaning. The two biggest misconceptions people have for each other is that the others are either lucky or better off. My perception of luck is to wake up every day and work hard for it. Some days I win some others I lose and regardless how many times I fall I rise up again and again and again and again. It is not easy and it comes with a cost. Somedays I make brilliant decisions some days not. Somedays I live to the fullest some others I crawl on my couch. It is exhausting and draining and painful and at the same time rewarding and amazing. But that trip I went, the apartment I bought, the relationships I have are not luck. Are hard hard work over and over again. If you think that someone is going to open the door for you and let you into a magical life you are a fool. No one has this type of life. NO ONE! People refuse to talk about how much it takes because they have this idea that they have to be perfect! To wake up and say I am going to do the best I can today it takes courage and a lot of work with oneself. We are being fed so much social media perfection nonsense, we talk less to each other, we think less, we consume, over and over and over again so much crap that we believe that life is an easy journey like our Instagram posts. It is not! You wake up, you fight it, you build it, you embrace it or you sink in to it. Will my friend survive? yes. Does she know it yet? No! Is it going to be easy for her? I think you know the answer. What she cannot see now is that in a couple of years she will go back to this day and think. I have been so amazing, I survived through this, this made me better, I went out of my comfort zone, I discovered more of myself.
We all fall, we all fail and we all conquer. Sometimes we fail ourselves, sometimes we fail each other, sometimes we fail the idea people have for us, sometimes we fail the idea we have for ourselves. Failure is fine, it is not fatal. Life is a journey with great sunsets and heavy storms and great lessons…
I will finish this blog with the following mantra that I created for myself and I repeated this morning when I felt the autumn blues coming:
“Take one day at a time. Today expect something good to happen to you no matter what occurred yesterday. Realize the past no longer holds you captive. It can only continue to hurt if you hold on to it. Let the past go. A simply abundant world awaits.”
Have a great month everyone!
Would love to read your own journeys and own thought on this!
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