The pressure to fill the mold, can you feel it? I believe you do. Most of you. I think it started slowly back in school and it completely transformed you. By the time you are a certain age you start spending money on porcelain, pots and tires you don’t need. Short sacrifices for long gain terms isn’t that correct? You start working hours and hours in a job you don’t like to be able to buy certain things, to feel in “society’s check list”. New car check, new apartment check. What you do not understand is what you pay with is not the money. It is the hours you have spent to make the money, it is the hours you have spent in a job you do not like, to buy things you do not need, to impress people you do not like. It is called normality but it is insanity. Are you with me?
There are the things you have to do and the things you want to do. However after a certain age you start feeling the pressure to fill the mold. People use age as an argument. “Most people your age do this” , “Enjoy now that you are young because when you grow old life is a different game”. Different people repeat to you the same things. This is what we were told or taught by society, school, family, media. It must make it right. There are all these benchmarks to meet by a certain age. If you meet them you are doing well in life, if not you should try harder. You are defined by a number, your age and I can tell you this with certainty, the more you will let age define you the older you will feel.
Life is not “a different game” because you are a certain age. You shape your life. You are responsible for it. You are the one putting or releasing the pressure on yourself. You raise the walls and tear them apart. You set yourself free or imprison yourself. It all comes down to your choices. No one else’s. Everyone has an opinion about your life and what you should do but the only person’s opinion that matters is YOURS! You live your life. No one else!
It is easy to forget you are free in life. It is also quite a responsibility to take. It is easier to blame society, your parents or your partner. It requires a lot of daily work with oneself. Accountability and self-responsibility are critical to shaping oneself. However, we often look for those character traits in others, or blame others if we fail to have the traits rather than inculcating them in ourselves. Would you take the accountability to master your fate or will you let someone else take the lead and you will follow? Are you a follower?
Whatever you choose is up to you I just hope that from today you will not be defined by a number. I hope you are not held back or try to fill the mold. I hope you don’t do things because time is slipping away. Hold on, slow down, breath, find your rhythm. Your age does not define you. Society either. Remember you are free. Whether you are going to use that freedom or not it is still up to you. Do not change your journey to match someone else’s. We walk different paths. The world has to be explored. Make a bucket list but only for new things to experience not for the person you have to be. Because what you think you have to be now it might change in 5 years. And that is fine. That is great! Embrace the change. Change is great. Change is amazing. Change means moving. You are not a tree you move. You are not a rock you change. The biggest misconception in life is that “People don’t change”. We do. It is what it is all about. Our universe is in constant motion why should we stay still? Changing, growing, discovering, being true to ourselves, being in motion. This is what it’s all about.
Today I can tell you one thing with certainty: Change is not an easy path but it is the most rewarding and liberating one.
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